Keep a happy marriage!

So, Allan and Rebecca did a topic this morning about what it takes to make a happy marriage. We all know that communication is key and so is honesty and trust. Here is a great e-mail I received contaning great marriage advice. Thanks Melissa

Here are all the things my late parents did right...and they were married 56 years,
until my Mom passed away in 2002:

1) Do fun activities together....and with other couples. A simple movie and dinner can be
an outstanding way to connect. Having other couple friends makes the relationship
even stronger. My parents always went to dinner on the weekends with friends/other couples and enjoyed that aspect of their lives....both of them were very happy staying connected
to friends and staying busy with them.

2) Always keep your sense of humor...find the most eccentric things the other person does and learn to have fun with it. Tease one another. Enjoy the comedy of your shortcomings. Learn to laugh at yourself. And also, don't let the oddities of another get you down. Instead, laugh about it. Comedy is often the best medicine.

3) Allow the other person their own space........to do whatever they do. Don't try to stop
activities that make that person who they are. It will only backfire. My mom loved to sew,
my Dad loved to be active in politics...these things made them who they were. Both of them loved to do what they did. Neither one tried to stop the other.

4) Always buy gifts on important holidays. Take time to go out and shop and do something special. No matter what anyone says, this act of kindness will always promote goodness.
Some say gifts don't matter, but they do on special days like Birthdays and Christmas. It does not have to be expensive. But the thought and the activity of going out to find something special for your partner is very important.

5) Never stay mad for long. Have your say...and then if necessary, agree to disagree and let this be gone. Let things blow over....given time, they always will.

6) Take vacations together. Not always possible, but where you can, do. Memories are priceless.....nothing can compare.

7) Hold to the highest ethical standards..........trust is key. There was never any question with either one of my parents....they were completely and utterly committed. Honesty,
integrity and dedication are the things that hold you up when the rest of the world falls
apart.

Big night ahead!

Hello!

So, this is the night i'm sitting at home alone to write my vows. I'm getting married in 4 days and tonight I write down everything I feel. Wow! No pressure there ;) It is not hard for me to express my thoughts, but I want to make sure that I don't sound like every other guy who professes his love towards someone. Yes, you are best friends. Yes, you are soulmates. It is all over-used and I feel that the uniqueness of the relationship should reflect in the uniqueness of the vows. Just my thoughts!! So, I am going through old pictures and listening to the love channel on satellite. Chicago is playing..How nice. I am now in a good state of mind and I'm gonna go write now. Jeez, and I'm gonna write a parody bit about Richard Hatch going to prison right afterwards. If the bit is mushy tomorrow, you'll know why. I'll make sure to publish what I come up with when I get back from the honeymoon. Wish me luck, and thanks for taking the time to read my thoughts

Looking for something fun to do?

Hello all,

I just wanted to let you all know about the Animal Jam I'm hosting tonight. It starts at 7:30. Fun, food, drinks, and a ton of bands. Your 10 dollar cover ALL goes to The Brooklyn Animal Shelter. It's at the Velvet Dog in the Warehouse District. Hope to see you all there!

Tomorrow night, my band Bonedaddy is playing at The Train Station in Elyria. If you've never been there, it's a hoot (did I just say hoot?) It's big and open, drinks are cheap...E-mail me for directions, I'd love it if you all came out.

That's all for now. Everyone enjoy your weekend and be good to your mothers, this and every day :)

Hawaiian honeymoon!!

Hey all,

So, my marriage to Stephanie is happening in 10 days from today. I'm pretty pumped. No nerves, just pumped. There is so much planning involved, so many little things to take care of. We're getting ready to meet with the napkin guy tonight. Who meets with the napkin guy? They are napkins. I'm sure no one really cares about them. They do have our names on them though. 2 days after the wedding, we are going on a Hawaiian cruise. Lots of saving has been going on to make it happen. The actual cruise is almost do-able, but then you need to fly there and then probably do stuff in port. Our last cruise I filled up shampoo bottles with liquor and wine so that I could save money. I had about 8 shampoo bottles in my luggage, which is weird because I don't have much hair. I forgot to rinse them well enough and the wine tasted like a fine merlot and pert. Anyways, if you have been to the islands and wouldn't mind helping a guy take care of his girl, e-mail me at ganderson@q104.com. I promise I'll bring you back a coconut!! Thanks for reading

Spending time with mom

Hi everyone. So, I had a fun weekend. Friday, we found a new place for wine tastings. Royal Park Fine Wine. It's at the corner of Drake and Pearl in Strongsville. Every friday night, 5 bucks, tons of appetizers and nice pours. I highly recommend them. Saturday night, I spent some time with my mom and we watched a movie together. Mother's Day should not be your excuse to visit someone you love. Any one can do that. Always take time to show people you love them. I know I appreciated the visit, and I know she did too. Yesterday, it was off for mexican food at El Rodeo. They literally have the best salsa in the state. Stephanie and I got some last minute things ironed out for the wedding. It's always more fun making seating plans when you have a sizzling fajita next to you, you know :) 12 days left till we get married, I can't wait. She is the greatest

Animal Jam

So..I know there's a lot of places to donate your hard-earned money, but I wanted to tell you about an event I'm doing. It's Called Animal Jam and it's happening May 12th (Friday) at the Velvet Dog in the warehouse district. 10 bucks to get in and there will be a ton of bands playing, as well as free food and special drink prices. There's also gonna be free door prizes. All the money goes to the Brooklyn Animal Shelter, not quite as big as the APL, but they are in desperate need of our help. I'll be hosting out there from 730-1am. Come and hang out. Tickets are available at the door, I hope to see you there

Weekend in the garden

Wow, back to work already. How nice to have a weekend where there's no rain and you can actually get yardwork done. That's exactly what I did. All day Saturday it was off to Home Depot to buy flowers and bushes. Everyone says that you shouldn't keep up with the Jones', but if you have that one house that doesn't cut their lawn and the only landscaping you have is a garden gnome your grandma gave you 20 years ago, you will be the talk of the street in a bad way. If you're like me, you get really confused with what to do in your garden as soon as you walk in to the store. So many flowers and things. Anyways, if you're looking for a good deal on mulch, Marcs has the black hardwood mulch for 1.99 a bag. A good price considering most places want over 3 bucks. Any suggestions for some good flowers that don't require any work? E-mail me at ganderson@q104.com. Also, I'm getting some trees cut down and the guy is quite a steal. He also has a stump grinder. If you are in and around the Brook Park, Middleburg Hts area, let me know and I'll get you his number. That's all for now, enjoy the day.